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Never have I ever questions for couples

Never have I ever is a party game, and most lists of it are written for a party: loud, a bit lurid, designed for a room. Played by two people it becomes something quieter and better. There is no audience to perform for, so what comes out is a string of small stories you have somehow never told each other.

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For two, the rules need a small change. Take turns reading a statement. If either of you has done it, that person owes the story, briefly. The story is the game. A list worked through with nods and no stories is a questionnaire.

These are kept clean on purpose, so the list works for a new couple as well as an old one. The last section turns the game on the relationship itself, which is where long-standing couples tend to find the surprises.

Harmless confessions

Warm-up. Everyone has done at least half of these.

  1. 1Never have I ever pretended to be on the phone to avoid someone.
  2. 2Never have I ever laughed at a joke I did not understand.
  3. 3Never have I ever waved back at someone who was waving at the person behind me.
  4. 4Never have I ever eaten something off the floor.
  5. 5Never have I ever fallen asleep in a meeting or a lesson.
  6. 6Never have I ever passed on a present I was given.
  7. 7Never have I ever said I was five minutes away when I had not left.
  8. 8Never have I ever cried at an advert.
  9. 9Never have I ever searched for my own name online.
  10. 10Never have I ever blamed someone else for a smell.
  11. 11Never have I ever pretended to have seen a film I had not.
  12. 12Never have I ever walked into a glass door.

Younger and dafter

Stories from before you met. This is the section that fills in each other’s history.

  1. 1Never have I ever had a haircut I had to hide.
  2. 2Never have I ever been sent out of a classroom.
  3. 3Never have I ever had a crush on a teacher.
  4. 4Never have I ever sneaked out of the house.
  5. 5Never have I ever kept a diary I would be mortified to reread.
  6. 6Never have I ever written a poem about someone.
  7. 7Never have I ever been in a band, or badly wanted to be.
  8. 8Never have I ever lied about my age.
  9. 9Never have I ever broken something and hidden the evidence.
  10. 10Never have I ever had a nickname I hated.
  11. 11Never have I ever been dumped by text.
  12. 12Never have I ever practised a kiss on my own hand.

Out in the world

Travel, work and public embarrassment.

  1. 1Never have I ever missed a flight.
  2. 2Never have I ever got on the wrong train and stayed on it.
  3. 3Never have I ever called a boss or a teacher mum or dad.
  4. 4Never have I ever sent a message to the person it was about.
  5. 5Never have I ever fallen over in front of a crowd.
  6. 6Never have I ever been locked out in something I should not have been wearing.
  7. 7Never have I ever quit a job with no plan.
  8. 8Never have I ever got lost and refused to ask for directions.
  9. 9Never have I ever sung karaoke sober.
  10. 10Never have I ever cried in a public toilet.
  11. 11Never have I ever eaten a meal I did not order because I was too polite to say.
  12. 12Never have I ever been greeted warmly by someone I did not remember at all.

Dating, before us

Light, and handle it lightly. The aim is funny stories, not an inventory.

  1. 1Never have I ever been on a date that lasted under half an hour.
  2. 2Never have I ever left a date early with an invented excuse.
  3. 3Never have I ever liked someone purely because of their voice.
  4. 4Never have I ever sent a text and immediately wished I could take it back.
  5. 5Never have I ever looked someone up before a first date and then pretended I had not.
  6. 6Never have I ever said I love you first.
  7. 7Never have I ever kept something an ex gave me.
  8. 8Never have I ever fancied a friend’s brother or sister.
  9. 9Never have I ever been stood up.
  10. 10Never have I ever had a holiday romance.
  11. 11Never have I ever made a playlist for someone I liked.
  12. 12Never have I ever rehearsed a conversation in the mirror.

About us

The same game aimed at the two of you. Several of these are small confessions, so keep it kind.

  1. 1Never have I ever pretended to like a present you gave me.
  2. 2Never have I ever read your messages over your shoulder.
  3. 3Never have I ever blamed you for something I did.
  4. 4Never have I ever watched the next episode without you.
  5. 5Never have I ever agreed with you just to end the argument.
  6. 6Never have I ever eaten the thing you were saving.
  7. 7Never have I ever told a friend something you asked me to keep quiet.
  8. 8Never have I ever fallen asleep while you were telling me something.
  9. 9Never have I ever hidden a purchase from you.
  10. 10Never have I ever practised what I was going to say to you.
  11. 11Never have I ever missed you and not said so.
  12. 12Never have I ever been proud of you and forgotten to tell you.

Keep asking without having to remember

The hard part of this is not the questions, it is the habit. Most couples read a list like this, have one good conversation, and never open it again. HeartTap exists mainly to remove that failure: it sends one question at a time to both of you, and hides each answer until you have both written yours, so neither of you drifts toward agreeing with the other.

If you would rather not choose, the couple question generator picks one at random from every set on this site.

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Frequently asked questions

How do you play never have I ever with two people?

Take turns reading a statement aloud. Anyone who has done it owns up and tells the story in a sentence or two. With only two of you there is no need for points or drinks. The stories are the game, and the best rounds are the ones that go off on a tangent.

Are these questions clean?

Yes. The list is written to be safe for a new couple, a family table or a long car journey. If you want a spicier game, keep the format and write your own statements, since what counts as too much is different for every couple.

Is never have I ever a good game for new couples?

One of the better ones, because it produces stories instead of opinions and lets each person choose how much to reveal. Start with the first two sections. The dating section is fine once you can both laugh about your past, and not before.

What if a statement causes an argument?

Drop that one and keep playing. The section about the two of you contains small confessions, and the unspoken rule of the game is amnesty: something owned up to in a game is not evidence for later. If you cannot offer that, skip the last section.

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