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Truth or dare questions for couples

Truth or dare survives into adulthood because it solves a real problem: it gives two people permission. Permission to ask the thing you would not ask over dinner, and permission to be ridiculous without having to suggest it yourself. The game takes the blame.

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Played by a couple, it works best when the truths are specific and the dares are small. A dare should take under a minute and embarrass only the person doing it. A truth should be something you are curious about, not something you already suspect and want confirmed.

One rule keeps it enjoyable: either of you can pass, once per round, with no explanation. A game that cannot be declined stops being a game. Everything below is clean, and the dares in the last section are written to work over a video call.

Truths: easy ones

Low stakes. These are to get the game moving.

  1. 1What is the most childish thing you still find funny?
  2. 2What is the worst gift you have ever received, and from whom?
  3. 3What is the longest you have gone without washing your hair?
  4. 4What is a food you pretend to like in company?
  5. 5Who was your first celebrity crush?
  6. 6What is the silliest thing you have cried about?
  7. 7What is your most embarrassing habit when you are alone?
  8. 8What is the worst lie you told as a child?
  9. 9What app would you be most embarrassed for me to open on your phone?
  10. 10What is the most ridiculous thing you believed for far too long?

Truths: about us

More interesting. Answer the question that was asked, not a safer one next to it.

  1. 1What was your honest first impression of me?
  2. 2What is something I do that you find more attractive than I realise?
  3. 3What did you tell your friends about me after our first date?
  4. 4What is a small thing I do that drives you mad?
  5. 5When were you last jealous, even slightly?
  6. 6What is something you have wanted to tell me and kept putting off?
  7. 7What is your favourite thing about how I look?
  8. 8What is a moment with me you replay in your head?
  9. 9What did you first notice about me that nobody else mentions?
  10. 10What is something you would like me to do more often?

Truths: a bit braver

For later in the game, once you are both in it.

  1. 1What is something you were wrong about in our last disagreement?
  2. 2What is a secret wish you have for the two of us?
  3. 3What is the most nervous you have ever been around me?
  4. 4What do you think is your worst quality as a partner?
  5. 5What is something you admire in me and envy slightly?
  6. 6What is a compliment you have been holding back?
  7. 7What would you change about how we spend our time?
  8. 8When did you last feel properly shy with me?
  9. 9What is something you have never asked me because you were not sure you wanted the answer?
  10. 10What do you want that you have not said out loud yet?

Dares: silly

Under a minute each, and only the person doing it looks foolish.

  1. 1Do your best impression of me.
  2. 2Speak in an accent of my choosing until your next turn.
  3. 3Show me the last photo on your camera roll, with no explanation.
  4. 4Dance for thirty seconds with no music.
  5. 5Sing the chorus of the song I name.
  6. 6Let me choose your profile picture for a day.
  7. 7Balance a spoon on your nose for ten seconds.
  8. 8Do ten star jumps while reciting the alphabet.
  9. 9Talk for one minute about a spoon as if you were selling it.
  10. 10Walk across the room as if it were a catwalk.

Dares: sweet

The dares that are really an excuse to be nice to each other.

  1. 1Tell me three things you like about me that are not about how I look.
  2. 2Give me a shoulder massage for two minutes.
  3. 3Write me a two-line poem, now.
  4. 4Hold eye contact with me for a full minute without laughing.
  5. 5Describe the moment you knew you liked me.
  6. 6Slow dance with me in the kitchen for one song.
  7. 7Draw a portrait of me in under a minute.
  8. 8Make me a drink, properly, with a garnish.
  9. 9Tell me about a day with me you would live again.
  10. 10Plan our next date out loud, right now, in detail.

Dares: for long distance

Written to work over a video call, with nothing but a phone.

  1. 1Give me a thirty-second tour of your fridge.
  2. 2Show me the view from your nearest window.
  3. 3Send me the worst selfie you can take.
  4. 4Send me a drawing of the two of us, done in one minute.
  5. 5Put on the song that reminds you of me and mime it.
  6. 6Show me what you are wearing on your feet.
  7. 7Send me a voice note saying goodnight in a ridiculous voice.
  8. 8Find something in your room that reminds you of me and hold it up.
  9. 9Set a photo of us as your lock screen and show me.
  10. 10Tell me exactly what we would be doing if I were there tonight.

Keep asking without having to remember

The hard part of this is not the questions, it is the habit. Most couples read a list like this, have one good conversation, and never open it again. HeartTap exists mainly to remove that failure: it sends one question at a time to both of you, and hides each answer until you have both written yours, so neither of you drifts toward agreeing with the other.

If you would rather not choose, the couple question generator picks one at random from every set on this site.

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Frequently asked questions

How do you play truth or dare as a couple?

Take turns. The person whose turn it is chooses truth or dare, and the other picks one from the list or invents one. Agree before you start that each of you can pass once per round with no explanation, and that anything said in the game stays in the game.

Are these truth or dare questions clean?

Yes, all of them. They are written to be playable anywhere and by any couple. If you want a more grown-up version, the format carries over: keep the pass rule and write your own.

Can you play truth or dare long distance?

Easily. Truths work over text or a call with no changes, and the last section here is dares designed for a video call. Photo and drawing dares suit distance particularly well, because the result arrives on the other person’s phone.

What makes a good dare for couples?

It is quick, it embarrasses only the person doing it, and it does not involve anyone outside the room who has not agreed to play. Dares that take under a minute keep the game moving. The sweet ones, where the dare is to say something kind, are usually the ones people remember.

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